How Ridicule Comes About

How Ridicule Comes About

From a Dream Dramatization

Dream: A prior relationship bond is recognized and established with a familiar dream image. In communicating lovingly, amicably, I experience, sense, notice an unexpected shift in the state of the relationship (a re-awakening in a dream). I am acutely aware of my spontaneous response; I experience a noticeable change in relating that I *signal to the dream image. I am communicating my awareness of the shift, my surprise at the change in the direction and flow of the relating, my joy and curiosity in the bounty provided by this experience, and my desire to reaffirm or redefine a loving relationship.

The signal, a re-awakening in the dream, is non-verbal (dream) body language, initially noticed as a facial expression of surprise: a tilt of the head and slight smile, then a strong pressing and focusing of eyes on the dream image as the heart warms and invigorates the rest of body, ending with a hook to reaffirm the relationship that expects a response.

I define my spontaneous response in the dream as the birth of ridicule. It is not ridicule as it is commonly defined in our day to day living. It is born out of the knowledge of perfect alignment with another and then experiencing a straying from that alignment for no apparent reason at all. The misalignment is a play, an illusion, a game . But, is it really? Still I took the ride for a smile and the promise of the churning laugh within. But do you know that I lobbed the jest to rid myself of the cumbersome suspicion of separation? I await solitary, your riposte, be it mirth or mock. To mock I surrender, I am that I am. To mirth I sacrifice, forsake all but Truth.

'Dem Bones, Dem Bones
Dem -Dream- bones'


Self Awareness of Relationship with Another( or one's Self)
Noticing the Change within a Dream


Registering the Warmth of Interaction


The Heart's experience of sparks Igniting


The Mind tuned to the Heart's Experience


Faith in Knowledge of Union


Desire to Realign


Surrender to the Way Things Are


Desire to Re-affirm relationship


Willingness to Forsake All But the Truth




Hear 'dem bones, 'dem bones


Now I hear 'dem' words!


Begin with one who you are or may be in sublime absolute union

Experience a distance or misunderstanding with that one (you!)

Notice everything about how you become aware of the slight but growing misalignment

Notice everything about how you feel about the separation.

Notice what you want to communicate to you, the other.

Communicate how you feel about your experience,

Communicate how you feel about you, the other

Communicate your desire to reunite yourself with the Self


Due to the apparent passage of time, the union does not remain perfectly aligned because of the nature of the way things are in the illusory physical world. It is apparently ever-changing, moving toward a restoration of the Absolute or the Original Situation.

That misaligned one ridicules You. You do it to your Self originally and then to Others.

If you understand the purity of the motive or intent, you will yield and stick with that other.  You are called to surrender or stand and deliver.  You are called to face up and respond in kind. You are called to do whatever appropriate to reinstate union. This is sacrifice.  The exact action cannot be adequately described; nor is it fully known beforehand.

Ridicule becomes less severe as relationships evolve.  It becomes more severe and degenerates into injury and complete denial if the relationship devolves.  If there is no sacred re-cognizing and honoring of the essence of who and what you are and who and what others are there is no faith, no hope; nor is there evolution. Jest Death remains!

Notice that the one, who is first aware of the slight but growing misalignment from his or her point of view, attempts to regain union either by denial of the possibility of alignment or by acceptance of the misalignment. And if there is denial, that one ridicules you in some gesture or chaotic ressonance as the crow caws.

The Play of Illusion, Maya's Tap Dance

What's the difference between ridicule (L. ridiculum a jest fr. ridere to laugh, derision) and mirth (AS myrth , myrgth, myrge, mirhth , merry, pleasant)?

To ridicule, to jest  (Maya's tap dance and reposte)

To be merry, to mirth (?) (merge) mirth, a noun used as a state of being, not commonly used as a verb.
(Maya is creating her subtle tap dance.  Watch the eyes, feel the heart's motor.)

jest n. [ME geste, jest; OFr. geste , an exploit, tale of exploits; L. gesta, neut. pl. pp. of gerere to perform, carry out]

to jest v. [L. gerere to perform, carry out]

                                                 I jest be ME.  Jest who be YOU?

mirth n . [ME. myrthe; AS. mirigth, mirgth, myrth, pleasure, joy < base of mirig, myrig, pleasant (see merry) + th], joyfulness, gaiety, or merriment

to ridicule v.t. (Fr. > L. ridiculum a jest, laughable (thing), neut. of ridiculus , laughable, comical < ridere to laugh fr. ridere to laugh, derision) to make the object of contemptuous laughter by joking, mocking caricaturing, etc.; to make fun of, deride, mock. Implies a making fun of someone or something but does not necessarily connote malice or hostility

to deride [L. deridere; de - (giving bad sense to v. + ridere, to laugh] suggests scorn or malicious contempt in ridiculing

Describes action of actor, one executing intention, relating exploits, telling tale of exploits, implies consciousness of an inner experience

Must first ride to know de-ride.   

It is better to ride and de-ride than never to have ridden at all.

to jest v. [L. gerere to perform, carry out] [ME geste, jest; OFr. geste , an exploit, tale of exploits; L. gesta, neut. pl. pp. of gerere to perform, carry out]


to rid v.t. [rid or ridded (id), ridding] [ME. ruden; ryden; ON. rythja, hrythja, to empty, clear (land); prob. akin to redd ] 1. to free, clear, relieve, or disencumber, as of something undesirable (usually with of) as of rid yourself of superstitions. 2. Obs. To save or deliver, as from danger, difficulty, etc.; rescue

rid archaic past tense and past participle of ride.


to ride v.i. [RODE RIDDEN or archaic RID or rode, riding] [ME. Ridden; AS. ridan; akin to G. reiten; IE. base redh- to go, be in motion; seen also in L. reda , four wheel carriage (>Gaul.), etc; cf. ROAD] 1. to sit on and be carried along by a horse or other animal; especially to sit on and control a horse in motion. 2. to move along; be carried or supported in motion. 3. to overlap, as bones in a joint 4. to move out of place (with up ): as his collar rode up constantly 5. in jazz musi,c to improvise freely (on a theme)

Describes the total experience of surrender: physical, subtle, causal to home free.

'Laudy,' who carry me on deride?  Who deride me?

to merge v.i & v.t. [merged, merging] , [L mergere , to dip, plunge, immerse, sink], to lose or cause to lose identity by being absorbed, swallowed up or combined; unite indistinguishably

Describes one's experience of the body

to laugh v. [ME. laughen, lahen , etc.; AS. hleahhan; akin to G. lachen (OHG hlahhan ); IE. base qleg- etc, to cry out, sound, seen also in clangor ]


You might say you want to get rid of one and mirth with the other. One acknowledges dissonance and separation. The other acknowledges harmony and merging (L. mersum to lose identity by absorption or immersion, a combining that causes the loss of one or more elements in the whole.  (See the resonance of laya yoga, Revealing the Secret, Ch. 4 ). In ridicule you are the object of ‘laughter'; in mirth you are the subject laughing.

Repartee (Fr. repartir to return quickly a thrust or a blow, to reply; re- back + partir L. to part, to part again) 1. A clever witty retort. 2. The power of answering quickly, pointedly and often wittily or humorously. 3.  skill in making such replies.

Riposte, ripost [Fr. It.< L. respondere, to respond, re-back + spondere to pledge; ) 1. to answer, reply 2. act in return as if in answer  3.  (rare or Obs.) to correspond to *  4.  in fencing, a sharp swift thrust made after parrying an opponent's lunge, 5. a sharp,swift return or retort.   n.  1. in architecture, an engaged  column, pilaster, etc. supporting an arch.

* to correspond to, to answer yourself back (to pledge back, to sacrifice the chaotic dissonance) in order to get in sync with your Self.

See: Laughter Heals All Wounds

© 2005 Laurel Hovde